Popular Beliefs About Marriage In Our Society That Are Incorrect According To Quranic References
Marriage in Eastern societies and Islam are considered a very important event. Societal boundaries and religious rules have repeatedly improvised that it is a cardinal relationship with set decorum and rights.
But there are certain misconceptions in present-day society that are contrary to Islamic teachings. Here are some of them with Quranic references:
Forced marriages are a norm in Pakistan. Unfortunately, we have failed to keep a difference between limitations of Islam and permissions. Islam does impose a limitation of interactivity with a na-mehram but forcing someone to marry against their will is strictly prohibited.
In Surah An-Nisa, Almighty says that
“O You who have chosen to be graced with belief! It is not lawful for you to force women into marrying or holding on to them in marriage against their will.” (Quran, 4:19).
Needing First Wife’s Permission To Marry Again
A man doesn’t need first wife’s permission to marry again. In Surah An-Nisa, Allah again states:
“If you fear that you will not be just/equitable to the orphans, then marry as permissible for you, women, two, three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then only one, or to whom you are committed to by oath. That is better so that you do not deviate from the right course”. (Quran, 4:3).
This shows that although there isn’t any permission required, there are stringent rules to abide by. Number one is dealing between them with equality. If a man is afraid that he won’t be able to do that, he is ordered to marry only one time.
Divorcing By Uttering The Words Three Times
It believed that uttering the words three times results in divorce. However, in Islam, divorce is categorized in three brackets: Talaq Ahsan, Talaq Hassan, and Lian. This basically gives the couple time to think about their decision and reconsider it.
As stated in Surah Talaq:
“Do not turn them out of their [husbands’] houses, nor should they [themselves] leave [during that period] unless they are committing a clear immorality. And those are the limits [set by] Allah. And whoever transgresses the limits of Allah has certainly wronged himself. You know not; perhaps Allah will bring about after that a [different] matter.” (Quran, 65:1)
Beating The Wife Is Allowed In Islam
Islam has given men authority over women. However with the authority, come responsibilities, which often we tend to forget. Allah has called men as guardians, protectors, and maintainers. Almighty states in Surah An Nisa:
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women.” (Quran, Part of 4:34).
It Is Obligatory For Wife To Live And Take Care Of Husband’s Family
A woman can do it out of affection and choice, but she is not religiously obliged to do so. Might be hard to believe, but these dynamics are not imposed by the society, not religion.
“To those, also, to whom your right hand was pledged, give their due portion. For truly Allah is witness to all things.” (Quran, 4:33).
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