Pakistan’s obsession with arranged marriages has resulted in another product destroying our social fabric i.e, the toxic ‘Rishta’ culture. Going from home to home, sipping on tea, bachelors being presented as cattle and then rejected primarily based on physical attributes – the process has cost our self-esteem a lot collectively and is taking a serious toll on the mental health of our youth.
While the widely accepted practice is quite unforgiving towards young men as well, women are more of a victim to it. It has also given birth to a flourishing industry – the matrimonial services. Now all you have to do is trust another person with finding your child a perfect match, which suits your financial standing and stature. You will then be presented with a photo file, that will reduce your worth to physical appearance, to be rejected or accepted based on it.
This hunting for the right girl has become a suffocating and toxic practice, which not only is asking the women to adhere to the old belief that ”only looks matter”, but is also concerning damaging to one’s mental health.
Quote with your rejection stories/ excuses ..
I'll go first. So your girl was once rejected because his mom sis felt "larki humai maghroor lagi, humaari family mai mix nahe hopaayegi"
— intellectual property infringement (@baezaariat) March 24, 2019
This is what the people shared regarding their experiences:
I never sat infront of any rishta ppl. I was soo against it always. I met my husband over fb, within 3 days of chatting, his family was at my place for rishta. And it was a done deal. I think all the Pakistani girls should go against this tradition. You shud be the one to choose
— Aisha (@Kaavrriya) March 26, 2019
1) age ziada hai (i was 24)
2) mera beta kehta hai larki outdoorsy ho (still dunno what that meant)
3) moti hai (my BMI was 21.3)
4) hamaray larkay se bari hai (he was 1 month and 3 days younger than me)
5) beta kehta hai i’ll speak to her first and meet a few times & then decide
— Mother of Dragons ? (@Zaibyx) March 24, 2019
Kon si wali share karon? Jo main ne reject ki ya jinhon ne mujhe reject kiya
— Ahsan Masood Tanoli (@AhsanTanoli) March 25, 2019
Kiraye ka makaan hay!
— I am F (@soft_signal) March 25, 2019
1) we r different,nature mix nae hoti
2)blkl b Understanding nae hai(Said this after 1 year of engagement)
3)isko prhae ka bht shok hai, tou prhna chahye.
— Go_Her (@Gohar_khalid96) March 25, 2019
Never been rejected cause didn't give anyone the chance to reject me in the first place. I never let anyone's family to come and 'see' me at home. Fk that system because it belongs to medieval times. pic.twitter.com/10tV0pjnxi
— Mishal (@HiTweeties) March 25, 2019
Not me. But one of my relative auntwas on rishta hunt for his canada settled son. She rejected two girls in my presence. Dont know how many afterwards. Reason 1. Larki k hath paoun pyare nhi. Rsn 2. Larki ka name pasand nhi ?
— sera vivienne (@SeraVivienne) March 25, 2019
Baloch hain aap log? oh hum out of caste mai nahi krte..adjust nahi hogi
— Huma | ہما (@Frying_Nemo) March 25, 2019
Larki moti hai humaray betay ko dubli patli khoobsoorat larki chahiye.
Larki advertising ki duniya mein kaam karti hai, smoking aur drinking karti hogi
— Saahrish Iftikhar (@isaahrish) March 25, 2019
Reason of rejection was the boy is very caring about his mother. This could be problematic in future.
— Evanescent (@Evanescent19) March 25, 2019
Apki beti achi hai, bus doctor nhi hai…acha doosri doctor hai? Nhi uski height thori kamm hai. ?
Sorry but yh aunty bator saas bht nakhreeli hain
— Morse Code (@NI_passionate) March 25, 2019
Humein pasand tou bohtt ayi magar height choti hai tou larke ko pasand nahi ayegi
Istikhara thek nahi aya
— Nayab’’^ (@bonafide_glam) March 26, 2019
larki ko man mani ka shouq hai..larki ko boht comoromising hona chahiye jo shohar kahay us hisab se nhi chlti ??☢
— Hooria (@imhumdrum) March 25, 2019
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